Don't hold on to toxic moments. Let go for your own sake.
Although I know how hard it can be to let go, to forgive, and most importantly to forget, I feel like its most toxic to yourself if you keep probing your wounds.
Instead of trying to hold close the memory of how a particular person hurt you,betrayed you or caused you pain, try and hold close a memory of them where they helped you, or made you smile, or showed their love for you. It could be the simplest of memories, a moment where you laughed together, a smile, a hug, tears shared together, anything. But hold that good moment close,and use it as your mask to cover up the painful moments. Use those good moments to remind yourself that people aren’t all bad, they just have certain negative qualities. Use those good moments to slowly be able to let go of the bad ones, so the pain feels less intense.
I’m not going to lie, although doing this makes it easier to forgive, it does not make it easy to forget. I think that’s something no one can do really, forget the pain. But it will majorly help you to remember the pain less often, it will numb down the intensity of the hurt and it will grant peace to your own heart.
Whenever you do find yourself drifting back to aching memories of a certain person, pull out a good memory and make a heartfelt, good Dua for the person. I promise you, making Dua for someone is the best cure for your own heart. Yeah, I know it's hard but eventually you find yourself peace.
May Allah ease all our pains and make us those of His slaves, who are able to forgive and let go of grudges, resentment and hurt caused by others.
I have to go now. I'm hurting actually and this is how I try to cure myself to let go of the pain that keep on torturing me. Hahaha. Funny huh.. So yeah. Xoxo.
Ms D Hafiqah AH 
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